I just want to remind you men that your girl is actually not crazy. What she is experiencing are triggers. I’m telling you whenever you betray a woman, she’s going to have triggers attached to that betrayal. A trigger can be anything from a word to a song smell or place. I can give examples from my personal experience, what I learned is that men like to gaslight us and call us crazy and toxic when we are experiencing these triggers.
Why are you so crazy?
Why are you reacting like that?
Why are you acting like that?
But what I learned is that anyone who has experienced betrayal trauma makes their love language safety.
So the best thing you can do for your woman when she is having a trigger and you know she supposedly acting crazy and can’t get her emotions under control is hug her.
Instead of arguing with her, calling her toxic and crazy. It’s based off a trigger betrayal that you brought out in her.
Grab her and hold her tell her everything is going to be ok.
You are safe.
Because I don’t know if you know this but when we feel betrayed we instantly go from safe into survival mode. We change dynamics.
We create to feel safe again. So the best thing you can do is hug us. Tell us we are going to be safe.